Intergenerational. (Mothers)

My great grandmother was a farmer

She was a medicine woman

She was brave.

My grandmother never spoke English

She was not literate

She raised her children through a war.

My mother is a broken women

She holds both magic and rage

She never shows love.

I would like to think that I am good with words

But I keep everything inside

I feel empty sometimes.

-A.A. Eke


Self-Care Sunday: My Routine.

For some reason Sunday Mornings tend to be my favorite time of the week. I live for the way the sun looks like in the sky, the way the light touches everything and the way whole world seems to be at a standstill. I love and live for this time every week. My Sunday morning ritual consists of watching my favorite Youtubers (currently old Clothes Encounters and Candice VanWye videos), listening to some sick tunes, watching the birds in the sky flock back and forth from my window, reading and of course making a BOMB breakfast. Oh yeah! and let me not forget tea, lots and lots of tea! I love my me time and this routine does the trick to making me feel rejuvenated and ready to take on the day.  Let me know what routines you do to unwind, enjoy the moment and be more present  🙂

DJ Grumble-IcyWrist2


Okay so story time, this song takes me allllll the way back, and because I’m in my 20’s I’m talking like 3 or 4 years ago. Back when I was fresh out of college, living in the Bay on my own. Back when I was just starting to get lured into the hypnotic sounds of chill wave and e-beats. Back when everything felt new, as if I was on the brink of something amazing. BART, salt water, Ocean Beach, N-Judah, Washington Square Park, Ike’s Place, Lower Haight, Land’s End, bright sunny days, warm skin, clear skies and endless dreaming. Yeah, I have the best memories attached to this song. I hope you enjoy.

Happy Nigerian Independence Day!!!

Happy Independence Day! Although the concept of independence is nebulous, especially when taking into consideration the colonial/capitalist context and formation of the country. That being said, I am and will always be Naija and proud, Igbo and proud and Biafran and proud.

“We continue make ourselves from all the pieces no one else wanted. We are in constant formation and that is our legacy as Africans. Rebuilding, reclaiming, remembering and always moving forward.” -A.A. Eke

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A Candid Conversation on Identity, History, and Home

Let’s set the stage: This takes place after a community discussion about the role that queer and LGBTA folks play in the Black Lives Matter movement. To give a bit more insight it was titled, “Which Black Lives Matter?” Somehow the topic of the Africans and African Americans came up, which is always a multilayered and relatively difficult topic for me to answer, mostly because I’m still developing in my own thoughts/self perception. 

Her: So you’re Nigerian, how does that mesh with this black liberation, being African and all?

Me: Idk it’s complicated, my identity that is. My parents are Nigerian and I’m Nigerian, but I was born and raised in the Bay and Sacramento. So there is an identification with all these places.

Her: Where do you call home?

Me: I think the concept of home is a bit nebulous for black folks period. If you’re African American there is this detachment with the concept of home, due to slavery and displacement and that culture echoes and has influenced me. But also, when I think of my own parents as not just Nigerians but as Igbos, there too is this odd relationship with home. My dad lived through the Biafran War and he grew up in Kano, but was forced back down home to Owerri when the war broke out. So he has a displaced traumatic relationship with home, which affects me. So even though I’m from the Bay there is this other place in the back of my head that exists. And when I think about, like really think about it, there is a pain and a sense of detachment associated with that home as well. So yeah, to make a long story short, idk.

Her: Oh, well it seems like still you have a lot to think about and figure out.

Me: Yeah, I guess so.

Regardless of whether or not I was fluid in my response, isn’t the point. I spoke my truth. I told my experience. In all its layers and multiplicity. I didn’t make it easier for someone else to digest or distill it to make it more palatable. My identity does not deserve to be reduced for someone else’s convenience. I spoke, it was honest, and for me that made all the difference.

Until next time…